无条件自我臭屁

今天又有点郁闷, 因为又要看着一个项目走向失败, 而且已经看了很久很久,只不过每次都无法说服别人听我的建议.每次别人都恶狠狠的以为我要显示什么, 或是要抢他饭碗.

赌气的和老婆戏说了一句"所有不听我的项目都失败了". 说完仔细一想, 还真是的.

从sap到adways,从小兵到CTO, 所有我痛苦大家为什么不听的项目都失败了(没做完的不算),所有我和组员反复争论最后放弃的项目都失败了。而且整个过程中痛苦的只有我一个,其他人似乎都做的很开心。(我是小兵的时候虽然有不同意见但是最后仍然服从领导,因为这是专业)。

只有我一个人做的项目成功了,就是ss的script compiler+VM+app platform+studio. 比后来我迄今为止做的任何一个项目的规模都大,但是成功了,

因为我不需要说服任何人。

甚至做CTO的时候有一个项目, 我对从老板到下面每一个人强调,”这个项目要成功就看你们听不听我的“,结果是适得其反,从老板到下面每个人都开始有自己的想法。后来我知道, 对一个中国人说”你要听我的“的结果就是他再也不听你的了,所以中国不适合有民主,中国只适合强权。

这是我对人越来越显得百无聊赖的原因,(另外一个原因是最近几年我发现这个世界真的很少人可以做真的朋友)

好无聊。

不能无条件服从我的,不要和我合作。

否则太无聊了,花很多时间,花很多感情,花很多口水,最后还是失败,何必呢?

还是一个人干的好。

前两天看一个讲神医王孟英的节目,很多医生都怕把病人治死了,所以都听病人的。而王猛英总是力排众议反复说服病人,一定要这么治,哪怕所有人都认为不对。我忽然想,为什么他就这么有信心他一定是对的而不怕万一把治死了但责任呢?这是一种感觉,有件事你太了解太擅长太有心得的时候,你才会一看就知道应该怎么做,问题在哪里,而且说出来话很绝对,因为你有信心, 你才会从心底立刻强烈的知道一定要这么做。我之所以能理解,是因为这种感觉我以前一直有,所以我说话也许别人听不惯,因为说的太绝对,因为我心里就是这么绝对有把握,我对这件事的信心就是如此强烈。可惜王孟英和我一样,自己再有信心也没有用,经常被别人不相信,被别人请回去,宁可相信那些庸医把人治死。所以我理解王孟英的痛苦,而我面对的只是项目的死亡,他面对的却是生命,所以他比我更煎熬,也更苦口婆心的说服别人了。

而我已经懒了。

就是这个项目,我们要集成别人的一个很大的开源产品,不是用对方接口或是扩展对方,而是不停的crack它,改写了无数代码,这还叫integration吗?设想一下我们有两个产品A和B,A要用B,但是不用B的接口而是狂改B的代码,而负责B开发人则继续开发,最后再merge。 你有见过这样开发的吗?这还不如自己写一个B好了,还更快一点,不就是一个DMS吗?但是只要我表达这个意思,同志就更加拼命的crack代码,更加拼命的找和我说的不同的方向走。还有很多很多其他的细节问题。好吧。不过不管怎么,最后服从领导是我的职业操守,我不会像我当年的那些小兵一样拿客气当福气。减少争论也是因为我越来越懒得争论,在看清了别人不可能听我的之后。

所以我对人越来越显得百无聊赖,所谓平常心,做自己该做的。

当然,另外一个原因是最近几年,我发现这个世界真的很少真的朋友。

而且人居然真的会变。

有人问我,“那你为什么以前不觉得他恶心”。

其实是这几年我每次发现他变的恶心了一点,我都会说出来,只是当时没有在意,说完一笑了之。到某一天量变产生质变,我不能忍受了,才忽然感觉人怎么会变的这么恶心。

离题了。

其实真的想法和我不同真的以工作为目的真的是因为太傻不懂而和我争吵的人我不会记仇,有时还是以欣赏的目光看他,这主要看他的人品。但是这两年碰到了一些神经病,莫名其妙的每件事都要和你证明他能做的比我更好,真是他妈的见了鬼了。他们也许怀才不遇了太久了,而恰好我是他的平级,是他用来证明自己的最直接道具。

好吧,你们慢慢证明吧。在我眼里人品做差了,其他再证明都是失败的。做人要做一辈子的,你在这个公司证明了自己又能臭屁几年?你最终证明的是失去我这个朋友你有多失败。

“除非你能服从我,否则请不要和我合作”。我必须这么说,哪怕你是个丑陋的中国人。

自我臭屁也好,是真理也好,总算爽一点了。

继续写一个人的程序。

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31 Responses to 无条件自我臭屁

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  2. 游子离说道:

    其实您的文章已经回答了您的问题:因为我不需要说服任何人。

    这就是问题的结症所在。您或许有很多先见之明,但是说服别人接受您的建议,是要站在另外的角度来的。特别是他人的角度。

    若是根本就不是商量的心态,您是老板,属下就会觉得您独断。您是员工,上级就会觉得您藐人太甚。所以,宁可项目失败也不采取您的建议,恐怕就是这个。

    能够说服别人,采取自己的建议,让大家都尽力而为,本身也是一种能力。甚至在团队中,比个人能力更重要的一种能力。

  3. jackiejuju说道:

    是的,您说的非常中肯。
    一方面是事方面的原因(客观原因), 一方面是人方面的原因。
    事方面的原因就是,很多时候我并没有实际的权力。比如决定下属的考评和升迁,比如某些关键资源的获取等等。
    人方面的原因,不是我的方式不对就是别人的方式不对,或者都不对。
    反而技术的大多数时候都不是问题。
    而解决上面的两种问题有时候是非常复杂和消耗时间的,所以我不想在浪费时间在研究这些事情上或者为之烦恼,简单一点,做自己能做的事,和能合作的人合作。

  4. 糯大米说道:

    我太有同感了!

    虽然我的project没有你的这么大,仅仅是在创业公司只有几个人。
    他们是土路子,没有任何规范化的意识,就是写了两三天代码就来创业的感觉。。
    只会写出一堆bug的c代码。
    完全没有开源的思想。没有KISS,unix的理念。
    perl/python等脚本,自动测试工具,git,没有任何的感觉。
    完全不明白,完全没听过,也不愿意去了解。
    偏偏项目又是那种,如果善于使用开源项目, 可以极大的提高开发效率!
    好不容易帮他们改了些bug。后来反倒说我浪费时间。。
    说我写的代码看不懂。。其实哪有什么看不懂的,根本不愿意去了解罢了。。
    产品频频出问题,客户逐渐失去信心。
    其实稍微有一点点开发理念就不会出这么多bug了。
    加上他们的急功近利,一个功能做好没测试居然就卖出去了。。
    我痛苦不堪。更痛苦的是,如你所说,“痛苦的只有我一个人,其他人都很开心”。

    现在非常纠结的阶段。
    产品很有市场,但开发不力。
    我想出去一个人重写,或许也就两三个月的事情。然后自己去卖好了。
    我真的不想要什么股份,让我一个人静下心来写代码,用自己的思路体验客户需求,然后自己去卖都好,钱我只要一点。。这样会爽快很多。。

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